Here’s a bunch of helpful stuff. Tons of inspiration, links to stores, ect. Its a pretty full tag so go wild. :D Good luck and I’m sure you’ll do awesome!
Thank you though doll <3
This is another variation of the meaning I hear a lot actually! And I agree, to a point that is also what it means to me.
Part of it as well is the banishment of masculine expectations and masculinity as neutral. :)
(To make this faster I’m going to be using “men” to mean cis men and going to make a lot of generalizations that may not apply to MoC.)
Okay. The short answer: Yes.
The long answer: Yes but….
It is a LOT harder for men to be feminists and, if I can be 100% frank with you, I think the insult you take at being grouped with other men as pigs or disgusting proves that you aren’t 100% there. Maybe you’re 95% there. Like you have all the right beliefs and all the right attitudes and you know how to thought correct and that is SERIOUSLY awesome!
The reason IDT you should get upset at that kind of talk is because rarely does anyone mean they actually hate all men. Or that all men are scum or whatever. Generally what is meant is that they hate the privilege men have, they hate the systems men benefit from, and they hate that they suffer oppression because of their bodies.
You probably understand all the things it takes to be a decent person, and in turn a good feminist, or at least enough to be considered a feminist in some aspect of the word. Thus, I (K), personally believe you have EVERY right to identify as a feminist.
Some people do not think men should be feminists. There are many reasons behind that. They include but are not necessarily limited to
- Men can be allies but they don’t really get the struggle
- Men try and invade all “female spaces”
- Many men make feminism about them
I’m sure there are 100 other reasons some people don’t want men to identify as feminists. You need to search within yourself, figure out why you’re so bothered by what people say, and then identify however you want so long as you’re upholding the ideals that come with that label.
Have a wonderful day!
8/2/14 coord for a friend’s meet. I was going for a princess type of look.
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oh no it’s not offensive at all, I’m happy to answer. Making sure things fit, no matter if it’s brand, custom, or offbrand is measuring measuring measuring. I am taller then most at 6 foot, with d-cups and 39 inch waist and its just a matter of measuring before you buy and then deciding if it fits you.
Many people are shocked to find out a lot of the big brands carry dresses that that can fit quite big girls! I only own two brand dresses at the moment but I have my eyes on plenty more! Nearly every brand will have their measurements printed in CM for the bust and waist if not more. I think it’s safe to subtract about 2 inches from those numbers to make sure you have no nasty shocks and surprises when it comes time to try it on.
This JSK is from BTSSB and as you can see here on it’s lolilibrary page it’s max measurements are at 43 inches, more then enough space for me in a sports bra. It’s a little short for me (well, everything is a little short for me) so i pair it with an underskirt which is completely common in lolita fashion.
Here are some other brand bits on sale now:
Ok let’s get away from brand, you can find a lot of plus size clothes that can be lolitasized. One of my favorite outfits was made of bits and pieces of nonloli clothes. I went with a sailor lolita theme and used a skirt that is a true full circle skirt so It would sit in the proper cupcake shape over petticoats. It was also a modest length and not to cartoony so it worked out perfectly for lolita. I used a modestly cut sleeveless blouse and since sleeveless is a nono I just used a cute bolero it cover up. Even my hat was altered. I pinned a hairbow on a simple cap to make it cuter, as well as picking slightly visible bloomers to up the lolita factor. You can skip a lot of the brand hassle by going this route because there are plenty of clothes out their that can be adjusted.
lolita like things you can buy now:
and then there is custom work. This means making your own or having it made. I have made a lot of fancy stuff but no lolita dresses but I have bought custom work from gloomth as well as many etsy shops who are happy to make your dresses to measure! If you are working yourself though I would suggest using patterns made for dirndls, 18th century dresses, as well as alice style costumes to get the right shapes, as well as adding a lot of extra gather to the skirts!
Here are some pattern ideas:
I hope this helps!
Hello friend! I have a few suggestions for you so buckle up!
First of all you COULD totally size up and tailor the waist. Altered lolita is a thing lots of people do. You could also also go for different shapes like a babydoll high waist a-line type shape. Here is an example.
You should also consider that MANY lolita dresses having shirring (or like stretchy elastic around the bust if you’re not familiar with the term). This means it shrinks or grows to the shape of your body, which would be perfect for someone with an hour glass shape. Just make sure you check measurements and whether or not it has shirring.
An hourglass figure can work with lolita but the goal of lolita isn’t really an hourglass figure. The shape is one that you would see more in gyaru for example. Many of the girls with that body shape opt for the higher waisted dresses to try and cover it up. You can totally work with it in a flattering way in lolita. Just be careful, especially with blouse and skirt combos, because it can look a little wonky. Like this:
You can also always consider custom size options from replica sellers, indie brands, taobao, ect! There are tons of options for custom sizing and if you go through some of our old asks you can find tons of links.
Good luck! Lolita-tips.tumblr.com would probably have some more ideas for you as well if you didn’t get what you need from this. :)