lolitafashionconfessions:

I’m a prehormones trans man who wears ouji as it’s the only thing that makes my body dysphoria stop…. and I am so, so tired of lolitas telling me that I look *almost* male, and *crossdress* well, and that they can’t wait to see how pretty I look in a brand dress. I am a man and you are destroying the only thing that makes me feel right in my own skin.Image: Miho Matsuda 
Shiro: Aw, dear, let me hug you. I have a very close friend of mine that is in the same situation (except he’s not a Lolita). He wishes he could wear a suit and a bowtie to prom, but he can’t… I know how hard it is. Be strong. ♥

I’m sorry that this keeps happening to you, I’ve not known Lolitas to be the best on misgendering people. Which is what they’re doing by calling your boystyle crossdressing. Since you identify as male you may, as annoying as it is, have to continue to tell the people in your community that you are male so that it will get through to them. Tell them that as a guy you’re not into wearing dresses (so long as you don’t say it in such a way that would imply guys can’t wear dresses cause that’s totally a thing)
And Re:Shiro, I get that you’re trying to be supportive but your friend’s experience does not make you “know how hard it is” because this is something you haven’t and presumably can’t experience.
-K+A

lolitafashionconfessions:

I’m a prehormones trans man who wears ouji as it’s the only thing that makes my body dysphoria stop…. and I am so, so tired of lolitas telling me that I look *almost* male, and *crossdress* well, and that they can’t wait to see how pretty I look in a brand dress. I am a man and you are destroying the only thing that makes me feel right in my own skin.
Image: Miho Matsuda 

Shiro: Aw, dear, let me hug you. I have a very close friend of mine that is in the same situation (except he’s not a Lolita). He wishes he could wear a suit and a bowtie to prom, but he can’t… I know how hard it is. Be strong. ♥

I’m sorry that this keeps happening to you, I’ve not known Lolitas to be the best on misgendering people. Which is what they’re doing by calling your boystyle crossdressing. Since you identify as male you may, as annoying as it is, have to continue to tell the people in your community that you are male so that it will get through to them. Tell them that as a guy you’re not into wearing dresses (so long as you don’t say it in such a way that would imply guys can’t wear dresses cause that’s totally a thing)

And Re:Shiro, I get that you’re trying to be supportive but your friend’s experience does not make you “know how hard it is” because this is something you haven’t and presumably can’t experience.

-K+A

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    I’m sorry that this keeps happening to you, I’ve not known Lolitas to be the best on misgendering people. Which is what...
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    little ouji man wants
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    First off- want this second- I understand. no lolita dresses ouji all the way
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    :( hope things work out for you soon!
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    Have you explained it to them? If not, they may not even realize they’re hurting you.
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